Marriage as Designed By God

What is marriage, purpose of Marriage

"....For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh...."(Genesis 2:18-25NIV)

Marriage is of Divine origin and not a man made idea. It is an institution established by God to serve a particular purpose. God is the God of purpose and order. He never does a thing without a purpose nor does He do things haphazardly(Numbers 10:1-10)

When the purpose of a thing is unknown or neglected abuse becomes inevitable. Therefore, when the meaning and purpose of marriage is unknown, we will abuse it. "My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge.." the Bible says(Hosea 4:6). So, it is of a paramount importance that we know the meaning and purpose why God established marriage.

What Is Marriage?
Marriage is a relationship or a union between a husband and a wife. It is not a relationship between a man and a woman. A man and a woman in a relationship are probably dating or courting. It is not marriage until the man pays the bride price of the woman. And a man is not qualified to be called a husband until he pays a bride price on a woman. And a woman is not qualified to be called a wife until bride price has been paid on her.

No matter how many years they have lived together, they're not qualified to be called husband and wife.(Hosea 3:2-3). A man living with a woman he has not paid her bride price is sin, your opinion notwithstanding! Cohabitation is capital NO for God. The Bible clearly warns that we should abstain from every appearance of evil.

Marriage carries the blessings of God because He is the originator of it. And this blessing is to be enjoyed only when you follow His laid down rules regarding marriage.

Marriage is an institution created by God and it pictures the relationship between Christ and His Holy Bride, the Church, and we cannot redefine it to suit our whims.

Marriage is a one man and one woman concept. That is God's design-one man, one woman. It is not one man many wives or one woman many husbands. It is not a man to man thing or woman to woman thing. It is not a man to animal thing or woman to animal thing. Anything apart from this God's design(one man one woman) is sin and against God's ideal plan(Ephesian 5:31).

Recently gay marriage was legalized in all the 50 states of America. A man can now get married to a man and a woman can now get married to a woman. And they called it marriage, that's not marriage but madness, moral decadence and foolishness!

America is "God's Own Nation". A nation owned by God. America is supposed to be zealous in obeying God's command and persuading other nations to follow suit but reverse is the case. They're leading other nations astray.

President Obama is married to a woman with children but he is now leading the people into sin by legalizing gay marriage. Is that not an obvious sign of hypocrisy? However, his case won't be different from the case of Jeroboam in the Bible who led the people of God into sin(1 Kings 14:7-11).

The gay community are protesting that they are born that way and therefore must be given right to express their feelings. Well, that may not be a deniable fact but one also need to find out where that feeling came from. Assuredly, it is not of God because He expressly commanded that "If a man lies with a man as one lies with a woman, both of them have done what is detestable. They must be put to death; their blood will be on their on heads"(Leviticus 20:13; Leviticus 18:22NIV). Someone that gives this kind of warning can't be creating with strange attraction. That strange feeling and attraction is of satanic origin and therefore anyone that feel attracted to the same sex must seek for deliverance because that feeling is abnormal.

I once listened to a woman some time ago, on a radio station, who was once a lesbian. She testified that she is now free from that strange feeling and attraction. She opened up and seek for help and she is now delivered and born again. Not only that, she is now married with children!

That strange attraction is not permanent. There is a solution to it. The solution is not giving them the right to express their abnormality. They have to be sincere to be free from that strange attraction and seek freedom from that abnormality. They have to surrender and give their lives and hearts to Christ Jesus.

The Purpose Of Marriage.
1. For companionship or partnership in Destiny fulfillment.
"The LORD God said, "it is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him{Adam}........"(Genesis 2:18-25)

Firstly, God created marriage  for companionship or partnership in fulfilling an assignment. A helper that will help in carrying out God's purpose and assignment for you . That is why it is very important that before you contemplate marriage,you must have known God's purpose for your life.
Before God gave Adam wife, He first gave him an assignment. Adam was busy fulfilling his  divine assignment before God discovered that Adam has no companion or partner(Genesis 2:15-25). That is why as a man before you begin contemplating about marriage, you've to first establish a personal relationship with God and discover your purpose in life because your  purpose determines  who you marry.

2. For Procreation or Multiplication.
"God blessed them and said to them,'Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth...."(Genesis 1:28).
Another reason why God instituted marriage is for procreation or multiplication. That is, for child bearing. He commanded Adam and Eve to increase and multiply through child bearing. That is why legalizing gay marriage is going against this divine command.

3. For The Protection Of Our Morality.
"....It is good for a man not to marry or not to have sexual relations with a woman. But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband"(1Corinthians 7:1-2NIV).

To prevent immorality in the society is another reason God instituted marriage. And this was made known to us through the Apostle Paul in the above scripture. God hates immorality be it fornication, adultery, masturbation, gay marriage and that is why He instituted marriage to prevent the violation of His commands(1Corinthian 6:9-10, Genesis 38:6-10).

These are the three main reasons God instituted marriage but among these three the most very important of them all is companionship. Marry first of all for companionship not child bearing. Marry because you want someone you can share your happy and sad moment with. Someone that will compliment you and join and help you in the fulfilment of your God-given purpose. Was this post helpful ?  Please leave your comments below .

Written by Okolie Samuel
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